Everyone has a sexual trigger. But just as everyone has something that turns them on, they also have triggers that turn them off. That fine line between turn-on and turn-off is where taboo subjects reside.
What do you consider taboo? What turns you on and makes you uncomfortable at the same time? The answer to that question will be different for every person.
Once you decide what you consider taboo, think about it in terms of talking dirty. You already know that talking dirty to your partner is a turn-on...but what about broaching those taboo subjects, and talking about those sexual things you would never really do? The fantasy might be a bit too far-fetched for you to consider making a reality, but there's nothing stopping you from going all the way with your naughty talk about the subject!
A friend of mine gets turned on by the thought of her boyfriend with other women. She has a fantasy of watching him, tied up and helpless, while one woman after another enters the room and proceeds to do all kinds of wicked things to him. In her fantasy, she's sitting in a chair beside the bed, watching.
She would never do it in real life, however. She and her boyfriend are completely faithful. So where does the fantasy come from, and why does it turn her on so much?
That's where the word "taboo" comes in. Her fantasy rides that line between a real-life turn-off and the fantasy turn-on. She fulfills that fantasy often, however, by whispering her thoughts into her lover's ear as they are in bed together. Her naughty talk about seeing him with other women gets him aroused, too...and it's a safe way to explore the fantasy without the risk of anyone getting hurt.
What fantasies do you have that need to be fulfilled? Share them with your partner. Make it clear you don't want to do these things in real life, but also make it clear that the thought of them turns you on. Then act out the fantasy scenario with lots of dirty talk! The words paint the images in your head, and your body will respond. It's the perfect way to taste the tempting taboos - but without actually getting in over your head.
That's another great thing about dirty talk - it's a license to try out any fantasy you want, and reap the benefits without suffering the consequences!